Are lesbians really more withdrawn from the LGBT Community? I attended an intercompany pride network event and this topic came up. And sadly, I can’t help but agree. Why do gays always outnumber lesbians in LGBT events? Where are the lesbians at? Well, probably at home, snuggled up beside our long time partners, reading books and browsing tumblr. But what do you think would make them come out of their comfy hole and get involved?
I admit, I myself am an introvert who really prefers to browse tumblr, watch videos and pretty much just stay at home. And although I do feel passionately about the LGBT cause, before I didn’t really feel like rallying in the streets or doing something like that. I guess what made me more involved is the availability of channels to show support to LGBT in my company. My work is pretty much my life and having an accessible Pride Network at the office where I spend a good amount of my time really helps make it easier for me.
How about you?
We usually don’t travel as a couple given our budget limitations and because we didn’t have anyone reliable to take care of our baby while we’re gone. But then we got a decent nanny and since it was our 4th anniversary, we thought we deserved a time off.
For this trip we just mostly stayed in at a reasonable priced hotel – Tagaytay Wingate Manor. We ate at RSM Lutong Bahay along Aguinaldo Highway which showcases a breathtaking view of taal lake & volcano while you eat. We also got to try for the first time the much talked about Bag of Beans.
Also, we got to talk more in this video. We talked about our budget and saving strategy (which I tend to do a lot) and how we really are as a couple.
My wife posted this a year ago on her Facebook wall, not expecting to happen #4 in only a year. We may have skipped #3 but we are getting there… one step at a time. Anyone knows who the artist is so we may thank them? Thanks in advance!
Domestic partnership as a lesbian couple is not recognized in the Philippines. Pursuing it takes a lot of documentation (and guts) to ensure that your loving partner is “legal” to support you no matter what. For instance, in childbirth, the State does not recognize a gay partner as your spouse or a parent to your little bundle of joy.
During my pregnancy, I scavenge through the ins and outs of the world wide web. I came across a potential document that can back us up in authorizing my partner in any medical decisions should the need arises. I am referring to a Medical Power of Attorney. I just had to make sure that everything is stated there and the parameters of her decisions and mine. Of course we had to sit down and discuss on the validity, the conditions of where my organs can be donated to in case I don’t come out alive from the operating room, and even having my partner as the direct person to be informed of in any medical procedures and decisions. We had this notarized to ensure that this is legal.
On top of that, we had to prepare the usual Philhealth documents before admission to the hospital, such as:
1. CF1 – to be completed and is available from the Human Resources Department.
2. MDR (Member Data Record) – this can be requested from Philhealth directly or this can be processed by HR.
3. Certificate of Contribution – this should at least be 9 months of contribution, also provided by HR.
It is relatively easier if one’s employed given that this is done ahead of time.
Geared up with these and everything’s a breeze.
For the past few weeks, my mind was bombarded with thoughts and ideas to post yet I find it ironic to not know where to begin. Maybe it’d be appropriate to give a little introduction about this blog project.
My partner and I have just had our baby girl last month and we needed some advice on how to raise our family. Sadly though, we have not found any parenting/family site suited for a lesbian family here in the Philippines – even if I had my internet researching skills put to use. Obviously, the country isn’t ready yet to embrace an LGBTQ family setup due to our conservative culture.
Hence, this blog is a brainchild of a lesbian couple who’s raising an unconventional family and wishes to help other LGBTQ parents out there by sharing their journey. Kindly take note that we are NO professional experts, we just wish to ignite change by imparting our experiences to you, as we redefine the meaning of family.